It seems that everyone believes that passion is the thing to follow. And having passionate romances are the pinnacle of all relationships. Think back on all of your passionate relationships… how did they turn out? Was it everything you hoped it would be? Or was it a lot more difficult than you would have liked? Well, have I got some interesting information for you!
If you look up the definition of passion in a dictionary prior to 1946 you will find it says something like this: Passion = to suffer. The fact or state of enduring inflicted pain, tortures, or the like…
I’d also like to introduce you to a tool that is incredibly helpful in clearing out limiting beliefs, attitudes, judgments and decisions that keep us from having clarity and the ability to choose what will give us what we desire in life. Its called POC & POD and it is a magic wand that clears all kinds of stuff. The way it works is you ask a question to bring up the energy of where you are stuck and then say, POC & POD all that! POC & POD is an acronym for Point of Creation (when you created the limited point of view), and Point of Destruction (where it started destroying your awareness of anything else that might be possible).
Let’s do an exercise that will hopefully create some space and freedom for you around past (or present) relationships where there is that energy of passion. Get the person in mind, get the energy of what being in relationship with them is for you. Intensify it… more, more… more! Ok, feel that? Now I’d like to ask you, how many times have you killed each other in other lifetimes? You may notice a lot of energy come up, sense a tightening in places of your body… and you may not sense anything, and that’s ok too. Everything that brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it? (This allows the energy to shift and flow where before it was locked up and stuck. Your willingness is all that is required for it to shift.) Right and Wrong, Good and Bad, POC & POD. And whose turn is it to kill who in this lifetime? Everything that is, will you destroy and uncreate it? Right and Wrong, Good and Bad, POC & POD. (Repeat these questions followed by the clearing POC & POD several times until there is no energy on the person for you.) Now think of the person, the relationship you had… does that feel any different?
So when you ask for a passionate relationship, or to follow your passion, are you really sure that’s your best choice?! What about asking for nurturing, contributory relationships? I know, I know, most people hear that and think, boring! So what have you misidentified and misapplied nurturing as that doesn’t allow you to have that in your relationships? Will you let all of that go and see what else can show up?! Right and Wrong, Good and Bad, POC & POD. I wonder what else is possible with fun, playful, nurturing and contributory partners?!